This one day my sister put a tiara on Leo and I thought nothing of it, just saw it as him being a little royal. My dad on the other hand and sister were on the edge-my sister was on the edge because Leo's dad would be upset to see his son in a tiara and my dad because he is a lot older and he believes that the way you dress could "skew" your mind and identity. I said something like don't let Leo become a machista asshole because that would be annoying. Then my dad and I got into an argument where he basically repeated to me so basically you would dress him up in girls clothes and then saying that if he wears women's clothes he would be confused and believe he was a woman, which is a huge statement in it of itself. It isn't of course that my dad is ignorant or not intelligent, rather he is of a different generation. By the middle of the argument I didn't know what I was saying because I was lost in my own thought. The only thing I wanted to say was that he should be less concerned about his gender and more on Leo just growing up to be a person who doesn't let what hangs between his legs to dicate his life choices and at the very least we should not be 'forcing' or pushing our own ideas of who he should be or what he should like.

Jezebel posted this clip today of a boy who just happens to wear things that 'boys' usually don't and I feel like this is one of the most progressive clips I have seen ever on this subject. One of my favorite parts was when they talked about the male teachers doing that ballet and no one laughing at them. Everytime I watch television there's some joke about how it's funny that a man is acting like a woman or how a woman looks like a man or how gay someone is, etc. And I never laugh because it makes no sense for me to do so because it isn't funny, just like this kid isn't. He is just choosing to wear what he likes and what looks interesting. So maybe this kid is like me and many other people just choosing what we like not based on expectations but rather on what we feel like liking and being free. Gender identity is different for everyone and for me at least I choose not to identify so much with it, I'd much rather put on some Miu Miu kitty dress shirts and tan chinos and laugh off the idea that I want to become a woman or that I'm confused. I'm just so over life being either blue or pink.

Labels: chinos, gender, genderfuck, leo, miu miu, princess boy, tiara

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Real talk homie. As a man and as a father Ive had to question my own ideas/machismo. Sometimes I check my self and say "love who ever you want to" to my son. The cycle/ box they put men into needs to be expanded, broken if we are going to evolve. Props to u for raising the tuff q's because the little one may now see someone he can come to to talk.

By  Robert Trujillo/Tres, at October 15, 2010 at 12:39 AM  

:)

By  Jorge, at October 15, 2010 at 2:51 AM  

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